Do you ever think about cheating on your spouse? The temptation to cheat on your spouse can be very real. And some would argue that the temptation is pretty natural and widespread. Whether you actually give into that temptation or not though… that makes all the difference. Let’s explore some reasons why you might be feeling tempted to cheat and why you shouldn’t do it.

Variety is attractive

If you eat the same food everyday for every meal, you will most likely get sick of it. Variety is the spice of life. It makes things feel new and exciting. So it’s perfectly natural if you feel an increased desire and attraction when you are talking with someone new. Having sex with that new person for the first time might be really amazing – because it’s new and different.

But just because something feels exciting, doesn’t mean you should do it. Having sex with new people all the time isn’t a healthy way to live life. You are training yourself to never be satisfied with what you have. You are training yourself to always want more.

This is one really good reason to avoid pornography. Porn trains your brain to expect variety ALL THE TIME. Porn makes a normal, attractive spouse look boring. Porn makes it hard to be satisfied with just one spouse that has the same eyes, skin, hair, and body shape year after year.

So, yes, variety is super attractive. But that doesn’t mean it will make you happier in the long run. Cheating on your spouse is doing something for short-term pleasure that will give you long-term bad results.

Thinking that you deserve something better.

Another reason that you might feel tempted to cheat on your spouse is because you think you deserve someone better than your current spouse. But guess what? Unless your spouse is an addict or abusive or super lazy and doesn’t do anything, you don’t deserve a better spouse.

This thought is usually one of the first thoughts when a person cheats on their spouse. They look at their own spouse and they feel like they deserve different. They deserve better.

Well, guess what? You don’t.

The only perfect people are the ones we don’t know very well.

Yep. You might look at that person and think “Wow, if only I was married to them, my life would be SOOO much better.” But you are only looking at the outside facade. You have no idea what it is actually like to be married to that person.

And then you look at your own spouse and you see all their flaws and weaknesses in striking detail and it makes sense that maybe you would want to cheat on them. But remember, there are NO perfect people. Everyone has weaknesses and annoying things about them. So don’t throw away your marriage for someone that isn’t even real.

Think about your children

When thinking about infidelity, you have to consider your children. If you cheat on your spouse, what sort of message are you sending them? You are basically saying “I am the most important person in the world. My desires are more important than anyone else’s.” You could also be telling them “Commitment to chastity is not important” and “short term pleasure is better than long-term goals”. These are all horrible messages for your children.

Happiness (the kind of long lasting contentment and mental satisfaction that you really want) comes from discipline not pleasure seeking. It comes from patience and unselfish love and kindness. Lasting happiness comes from hard work. And you will get none of that from cheating on your spouse.

The Infidelity Cycle

Here is the typical infidelity cycle. You are bored or unsatisfied with your spouse. You meet someone else. You start to get to know them. And they seem soooo perfect. You become infatuated. You don’t even see their weaknesses because you are thinking such positive thoughts about them and your brain only gives you evidence to support the thoughts you are thinking.

So after cheating for awhile, you finally decide to get divorced and move in permanently with this new love. Over time, you start to see their faults and shortcomings. You start thinking some negative thoughts about this new person and feeling unsatisfied. Until you meet someone new. And the cycle starts all over again.

Christian values protect people

Lately, christianity isn’t very popular. But let me tell you… christian values protect people and marriages. Christianity teaches that cheating on your spouse is a sin. They tell you NOT to do it. That is helpful since infidelity isn’t good for adults or their kids. So resist the temptation and instead start putting in the hard work of loving your current spouse.